Just a quickie from the front lines of broken bones and editing hell today kids.
Long story short: soccer wenchling broke 2 bones in her arm on Sunday thanks to a hard, field clearing kick of a soccer ball by arguably the strongest girl on her team. Her wrist was in the way. Three days, 3 pins, one surgery and a ton of pain killers later, here we sit, casted up with a "no contact" warning for the next 4 weeks on board. She is not happy. This is the kid who walked at 9 months and I had to benadryl up for the many long airline flights she took before she turned 7 (she was born in Japan and didn't live in the US until then with stints in Turkey and England for the family in between).
I wrote a post about my parenting style the night before the surgery, alleviating some of my stress about putting the girl all the way under to set the 2 bones and pin them in place with what I thought was a sort of funny little something about how I am the polar opposite of an "Attached Parent." My style did not include giving up my life to live theirs. Made a new enemy that day who did not agree with said post.
Whew.
And I have 2 books that need my eyeballs after line edits (The 2 Turks releases The Diplomat's Daughter and Flower Passage: Tarkan Returns). One book that is in revision mode for the better, and another hovering on the horizon for same.
I'm trying to prep myself for a big weekend of beer work (2 festivals, still working out how to clone myself and my brewer for this), and the upcoming RomFest in Tennessee.
It's all good. No real complaints here.
But my question to you is this: When you read a blog post on someone's personal blog (that is to say NOT a news or opinion site like Salon.com or HuffPo or a news site) do you find it appropriate to vent a personal opposite opinion in the comments? I am of the mind that, if I read something I wholeheartedly disagree with on a personal site, I click the little "x" in the corner and move on. I truly do value opinions. I grew up in a house with plenty of them and learned early on how to defend my own. But I swear on a stack of Dave Barry books and Erma Bombeck columns I meant the thing to be funny. And 99% of the people who voiced their opinion of it said the same thing.
Anyways, just a blog comment etiquette question is all....carry on.
P.S.: Not that you care, I did breastfeed my kids for the bulk of the first year of each of their lives. But they do their own laundry by age 10 (or wear dirty clothes, essentially) and they can each mix a mean martini and tap a beer keg. I call these "life skills" right up there with study and cleaning ones.
I'll admit sometimes the "Betty Draper" parenting method makes me cringe....wonder why? Perhaps because I'm willing to admit I'm not perfect, and joke about it.
cheers
Liz
Long story short: soccer wenchling broke 2 bones in her arm on Sunday thanks to a hard, field clearing kick of a soccer ball by arguably the strongest girl on her team. Her wrist was in the way. Three days, 3 pins, one surgery and a ton of pain killers later, here we sit, casted up with a "no contact" warning for the next 4 weeks on board. She is not happy. This is the kid who walked at 9 months and I had to benadryl up for the many long airline flights she took before she turned 7 (she was born in Japan and didn't live in the US until then with stints in Turkey and England for the family in between).
I wrote a post about my parenting style the night before the surgery, alleviating some of my stress about putting the girl all the way under to set the 2 bones and pin them in place with what I thought was a sort of funny little something about how I am the polar opposite of an "Attached Parent." My style did not include giving up my life to live theirs. Made a new enemy that day who did not agree with said post.
Whew.
And I have 2 books that need my eyeballs after line edits (The 2 Turks releases The Diplomat's Daughter and Flower Passage: Tarkan Returns). One book that is in revision mode for the better, and another hovering on the horizon for same.
I'm trying to prep myself for a big weekend of beer work (2 festivals, still working out how to clone myself and my brewer for this), and the upcoming RomFest in Tennessee.
It's all good. No real complaints here.
But my question to you is this: When you read a blog post on someone's personal blog (that is to say NOT a news or opinion site like Salon.com or HuffPo or a news site) do you find it appropriate to vent a personal opposite opinion in the comments? I am of the mind that, if I read something I wholeheartedly disagree with on a personal site, I click the little "x" in the corner and move on. I truly do value opinions. I grew up in a house with plenty of them and learned early on how to defend my own. But I swear on a stack of Dave Barry books and Erma Bombeck columns I meant the thing to be funny. And 99% of the people who voiced their opinion of it said the same thing.
Anyways, just a blog comment etiquette question is all....carry on.
P.S.: Not that you care, I did breastfeed my kids for the bulk of the first year of each of their lives. But they do their own laundry by age 10 (or wear dirty clothes, essentially) and they can each mix a mean martini and tap a beer keg. I call these "life skills" right up there with study and cleaning ones.
I'll admit sometimes the "Betty Draper" parenting method makes me cringe....wonder why? Perhaps because I'm willing to admit I'm not perfect, and joke about it.
cheers
Liz
Not everyone is Susie Homemaker, Betty Draper, Mrs. Brady or living like Ozzie and Harriet. Jeez. People need to get a life.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing something right if your kids are self suffient, know the true meaning of the proper way to tap a keg (important in my book) and can clean up after themselves.
Ignore them all. They haven't walked a mile in your shoes so they have no room to talk or bad mouth you. Idiots...
Marika
I do hope your daughter is all right.
ReplyDeleteThis sounds like me. When I was with my first child, I wished--fervently--there was a book on the shelves for those of us who aren't the "Attached Parent" type. One that said, "If you believe in feeding your kids to the wolves, it's okay". All right, not that dramatic but close.
My children lived in different countries too (England, Canada and the US and Germany) while they were growing up.
To the blog question: It depends on the subject. If someone is writing about how they... hate roses or something light, I might chime in with a question or my opinion. If it is something a little more heavy, the most I will wish them well but I am all for the X too. Good luck with your edits and don't give a moment's thought to the new enemy you made.
Wow, Liz. OW, ow, ow for your daughter, and hope she heals up well! I mostly agree with you on the "what to do if you disagree"...but, Some People Just Won't. And those people are sadly the ones Who Just Have To Find Fault. It the hazard of saying out loud in public your own opinions. Whoever it was probably hit your button because it was all about parenting. I once found my cousin in tears over a comment about her perceived lack of mom skills. And she's a wonderful mom! Second-guessing comes with the territory. Attachment Parenting is, frankly, ridiculous--a fad without any--I repeat, ANY--data to back up the claimed benefits. And lots of anecdotal evidence condemning it. You go, girl. You teach your kids to live, to learn to be self-sufficient. To have a sense of humor about it all. In the best way possible: to demonstrate it yourself. If Erma Bombeck is your hero, you are on the right track. Forget the negative feedback. And...Happy Belated Mother's Day!
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