
Rejection Letters
Everyone who has received a rejection letter knows it’s the ultimate kick in the parts that hurt. No one likes working every hour god sends on their manuscript, editing it until their eyes cross over, only to receive a standard ‘Thanks, but no thanks letter. If feels like all your hard work has been for nothing.
So, what do you do when your work is rejected?

Years ago I used to cry like a baby. And that’s not a joke! It’s fine to feel emotional. No one really understands the pressure your under. Not unless they are a writer themselves. Here is where your writer’s groups/loops become a handy tool. Here you can vent your feelings, and they will all understand and commiserate.
When an editor says they hated something that took you months, even years to perfect, it is okay to feel bad.
Once you have got the tears out of the way, now you party.

Seriously, when you receive a rejection letter, it puts you firmly in the league of “real writers”. You wrote a book! Congratulate yourself. Millions have tried and failed. Now you have just entered a whole new world.
Rejection letters can really strip you bare, but please don’t stop writing.

A lot of new writers make the mistake of not writing ever again. What a waste of a talent. There are thousands of writers who have been rejected over and over again, only to eventually find the right editor who loves their work. I for one had a letter of rejection for my book The heart of a warrior in one hand and a gushing acceptance in the other. There are successful authors who wrote for years and years before they get their ‘call’. Catherine Cookson, Joanna Trollope, J.K Rawlings to name but a few.
So stripped bare and bleeding, what can you learn from rejection?

Evaluate it for what it is. It is NOT a slur on your family name, your character, your first born baby! Read what the editor/agent said about your work. If it’s a bog standard rejection letter, you probably won’t get much feedback. So then you just file in the container marked ‘bin’ and move on.
BUT, if you are lucky to get feedback, do take them seriously.
Editors and agents don’t have time to heap false praise on someone that is not on their listings. But if one has taken time to give you detailed feedback of any kind, it means something about your story or your writing touched them. Well done.
Also, sit up and take notice if an editor asks to see more of your work. If they say they’d like to see your manuscript again if you make some changes, drop everything, make them and send it back. QUICKLY! Same thing if they ask to see something else from you. Do it. Send it. . They don’t ask for more work lightly.

Writing is a minefield. Occasionally we will get blown up, sometimes get stomped on from other authors who have a hidden agenda to murder you. Other times, we will just get down about the whole thing. It will pass, we can and do, mend ourselves. Without us, the world will never get to see those stories that touch the imagination, melt the heart or just get the pulses racing.
If you have any ideas on how to deal with rejection letters post here with your web addy and I’ll put your comments on my writer’s blog.
I’ll be back next Thursday with more Food for Thought.
Margaret, you are so right. I used to cry at first, and I did stop writing for a long time because I had the mistaken idea that I was being rejection, which is so far from the truth, it's not funny. A rejection just says this material is not right for us at this time, not that it's not right for everyone or anyone. Like Thomas Edison said asked about his 1000 failures before discovering the light bulb: "I have not failed 1000 times. I have successfully discovered 1000 ways to NOT make a light bulb.
ReplyDeleteWhen you get a rejection, you have just discovered one publisher not to sell that particular work to.
Everyone gets rejections. It's a rite of passage. Accept it, don't let it get you down, you're part of the club now! If the publisher made suggestions and asked to see it again, get right on it! If not, look for another publisher and send it out again. Make sure you've polished it as much as you can - here's where your betas and crit group come in. And just keep on trying! After awhile, you'll look at a rejection and shrug it off with ease. But the acceptances, those will make you smile, if not dance for joy!
Since i have been following your blogs mags i have learn't a lot about what authors go through to get a book out there. It is such a struggle. How do you all cope? I sure as hell couldnt do it. But a s a reader, I appreciate the authors that do.
ReplyDeleteGreat post margaret. I like the way you break things down. Plus that pic of the naked lady...is that you lol
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you said, Margaret. Rejection can be tough and heartbreaking, but ah...how wonderful when your manuscript is accepted and you see your novel as an ebook and hold it as a paperback! Write, edit, re-write, ...send it out and send it out again and again until it finds a home!
ReplyDeleteMaggie
Maybe I just have a thick skin, but a form rejection letter doesn't bum me out for more than an hour, at most. It's a bit of a let down, but there are always other options. Sometimes, when I feel like I'm at the end of my options, I get very discouraged. That's when I find my most brutal beta reader who would be most likely to hate that particular book and ask for their advice as to why it isn't so great.
ReplyDeleteA writer can always grow. That's the thing to remember. I adore rejections which give feedback because more often than not, I can use that feedback to make my book better. And I will. Make it better, that is. I'm too stubborn to give up.
If nothing else, submitting is a lesson in obstinacy. Revise, submit, repeat.
Great post!
www.lbelow.net
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Hi ladies
ReplyDeleteIt is not only good to see how you all handle rejections, but it is good for new authors to see that even multi published authors get rejection letters. I've decided they are the bane of a writers life, but quite important too. They make you grow as a writer and like Lindsay says, use them to make your writing improve too.
I love it when you do these sort of blogs. I also get to see other writers and their books. A reader I maybe, but I also feel your pain as authors.
ReplyDeleteGreat post, as always Mrs west.
ReplyDeleteReminds me of the Little Red Engine that Tried.
ReplyDeleteAnd it is so true. No sense banging your head against the wall and crying. It happens to all of us. I remember reading something about Stephen King wallpapering his room with rejection letters. He never gave up and look where he is now.
I started with short stories and my rejections would be like Mr. King's. But persistence is the key, or to me, plain old stubborness.
Great post Margaret.
Great post...so true! I don't get down with rejection, but I get down when I feel like I'm coming to the end of a road -u know.
ReplyDeleteAs long as I can get up and go , I'm good. I can do soooo much myself. Took novels into my own hands and distribute myself and found editors and act like I am the publisher, this is a business.
Last year I started showing my work majorly on line and I sold the first month maybe 6 novels at most. This year I sold 140 in one month. So, there is hope !:)But I still have a long way to go:)
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I was getting so many rejections, I was ready to give up. Then I discovered the query-tracker forum (http://querytracker.net/forum/). Within six months, three of my novels had been accepted - admittedly by small houses, but still that's a lot better than before. Two are published - A VIRTUAL AFFAIR, about a good AI who wants to cure the world's ills, and IMPLAC, about an evil AI programed to destroy humans but who claims to have reformed. The third, TRUE SON OF ASMODEUS, will come out later this year. It's about a vampire who doesn't mind crosses, but can't stand the sight of a mezuzzah.
ReplyDeleteHey - writing is fun.
Zvi the Fiddler
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Hi, Margaret,
ReplyDeleteOne thing that many authors don't realize is that your work may be rejected for reasons that have nothing to do with its quality. Your book might not be what the publisher is looking for at the moment. Alternatively, the publisher may already have contracted other books with the same theme and doesn't want another book that is similar - even if she likes it.
There are so many publishers these days - dozens of opportunities to get your work out there! If you've been rejected by your first choice publisher, do some research. Find out who publishes work that is similar to yours.
A case in point: an author on another list of mine was bemoaning the fact last week that her novel had been rejected by Carina. She turned around and submitted it to another highly respected publisher - and got an acceptance only a few days later.
So don't take it personally. And don't give up.
Lisabet Sarai
http://www.lisabetsarai.com
http://lisabetsarai.blogspot.com
Rejection hurts - and yes - it does make you cry. Just get up, keep sending. One day you'll find the perfect fit!
ReplyDeleteMargaret,
ReplyDeleteWhat an awesome blog and loved the pics. Now I understand the saying, "flat as a pancake." *lol* I'm going to share your link...hope you don't mind. Fabulous job.